In this episode:

• What "butter mum" actually means (and why it's blowing up right now)
• 90s summer in full detail — and why "come home when the streetlights come on" was the entire parenting plan
• The list of 40 activities, the three I did, and the 37 I felt guilty about
• When did "doing nothing" become a waste?
• The good kind of bored — cubbies, holes in the backyard, one stick for 45 minutes
• The phone call with my mum that reframes everything